Walking La Jolla Blues

Not that I had time to kill, but I needed a long walk.  So I walked from the village back up to Torrey Pines (OK, with a short shot on the bus in the middle) and it was mostly about close-up views of how California is really a creature of the automobile.  But in the last leg I got to the Salk Institute, took a left toward the Pacific, and found myself in a huge dirt parking lot with a truly spectacular view.

I was hoping to find the golf course, and navigate back to my room from there, but it seemed impenetrable until I spotted a gate across the moonscape of the lot.

But when I got there, the gate was chained and locked, so I wound my way to the left, towards the ocean, and wondered when they would run out of chain link fence.

Eventually they did, and the views in most directions made it pretty clear why lots and lots of people want to live here.

I walked through the brush (I'm in a suit, but no tie, and tennis shoes) and found myself on a deep back nine hole, greeted by five rabbits.  Three stuck around for a photo.

They seem to live a good life, these guys.  I saw about a hundred as I made my way back to the hotel.  Not tame, exactly, but they didn't seem to regard me as a predator.  Which I'm not.  Unlike some of the golfers... there was one who had hit way too close to another group, said the sun was in his eyes, he was sorry, but the targets were unforgiving.  So he yells, "If you can't accept my apology then kiss my ass!"

I'll take the rabbits.

Waiting for Insight

OK in the last ten days I've motored 1500 miles, checked out the Atlantic, walked New York City when it's over 100, and flown West and checked out the Pacific.  Confronted stacks of paper, dealt with a few, ignored many, and embarked on the usual resolutions.  Done the right things, done some things I'm not sure are right, opened doors, closed none.   In other words, vacation, of a kind, with a bunch of work mixed in, and a few moments, a few new hopes.

Great barreling insight doesn't come with this, whether asked peacefully or frantically... do we ever really change?  Only when we pull ourselves by the scruff of the neck, and is that a change, or did it always take scruff-pulling, and that's no change.

Life just opens up, day by day, and closes down, day by day.  A guy I liked, a banker, my age, fought cancer as I did, but yesterday he lost.  Or, the last day and threshold came to him sooner than to me, which you can treat as a loss or not.  Goodbye Bob.  Hello San Diego, today, and hello to the rest of my days.

Ring Finger, Left Hand

Maybe I read the wrong stuff, but I don't see much about this principal custom of our tribe: the "I'm Married" sign that people wear, all the time.

Mostly women, I notice.  Men, not so much, and those who do have a faint aroma of Ashley Wilkes.

But women really do do it, not just a band but almost always a big-ass engagement ring along side.  And I am probably delusional, but even now, and for my whole adult life, I've think I've had it waved at me.  Usually subtly,  a re-crossing of hands.  See there, buddy boy.  I'm married, and back off.

I get it with flight attendants, who must spend their lives being hit on.  But what is it with all the rest of the babes out there?

C'mon.  I'm married too, and I'm not on the prowl.  Am I staring?  Maybe, if you are gorgeous; it's a genetic thing.  But most of you, my dear ladies, are not gorgeous.  You are, however, women.  Which to me makes you presumptively interesting to talk to.  At this age and body mass that's about all my eye contact means.

I really don't get it.  Why do women - so many of whom are so fiercely independent in all other respects - want to parade their marital status at all times?  Is it really just to fend off the creeps?

Why isn't there a movement of cool women who don't want to be Melanie Wilkes?

Patriotic

I think of myself as a pretty steady Eddy, but when it comes to

Lump In Throat At National Anthem vs.
Patriotism Is The Last Refuge of a Scoundrel,

I swing back and forth.

Or maybe I'm a scoundrel, so I'm patriotic, so it all fits.

Hooray the Fourth.  Time to go light a fuse.