Prayerless

I dined this evening across the table from Jeff, a guy in the tree business. Jeff had a more interesting day than I had. While I did my usual Sunday combo of domestic chores and reading the Times, he was taking a massive Black Locust off the roof of a house, a tree so big that tomorrow he'd have to bring in a 100-foot crane to finish the job. (We'd had a mini-tornado in Webster Groves.)

But even more remarkable than his productive day in a bucket truck was his interest, once he found out my position, in making sure I knew he was going to pray for me. Told me over and over. In fact, as I was leaving and saying good-bye, Jeff grabbed my shoulder and engaged us in prayer right then and there, in the restaurant.

This was the most arresting example of the prayer business that seems to attend almost every expression of sympathy I hear. We are praying for you. Our prayers are with you. I have been hearing this for a year, almost every day, and get me not wrong: I am for it. I am flattered and grateful for the expression and perfectly ready to entertain the notion that it will do good. But - how to say this without sounding churlish? - I am skeptical of the idea.

I'm sure my problem is that I have only the simplest possible appreciation of the process. I understand it thus: you address a petition to God, God hears, God acts. But why does God act? Because of the prayer? Does God not act if there is no prayer? If I were unlucky enough to have no one praying for me, would God ignore me? Who prays for them?

Now I didn't raise this with Jeff. This guy brings down trees for a living, and judging from his build and his callouses he probably does a lot of the work bare-handed. He could strangle me with two fingers, but instead he's calling in the Deity on my behalf. Still, there's a problem. I bow my head as he prays and I thank him, warmly, gratefully. honestly, and... patronizingly. There's a hypocrite in the room. It isn't Jeff.

And I am doing great, and who am I to say that all these expressions of prayer, whose sincerity I do not for a moment doubt, have not made the difference? I can only think of one way to true things up a little. From now on I will pray - me, praying, ha! - for those who otherwise have no one praying for them, and hope for the best for all of us.

Nineteen

Nineteen radiation sessions down, eleven to go. I am fine. Much less impact than before at this stage - don't really know why. Maybe I'm getting used to it. I should be, since if you count the last go-round it's a total of 49 so far.

I also am getting used to it in the commuter/schedule/routine sense of things. I pull off the parkway at the last possible exit, slide into a non-obvious turning lane, roll up into the parking garage, punch in for a ticket, blast ahead of the other guys who are still trying to dope out the machine, go up a couple of ramps and usually am into the same space, a little off the track, you kind of have to know about it. Then walk into the hospital, plugging in the Ipod so I can listen to Fresh Air. Down to the lower level, click in with my bar code card, validate parking, then go back for zillions of electron volts. Ho hum. Another day at the lab.

Maybe that's it. The orderliness. Anyway, an end in sight, and better along the way than expected.

Fool

Further to the last. Dark and ironic are not necessarily something to aspire to, and it's not my first encounter.

About 45 years ago I authored a piece in the Horae Scholasticae, the literary magazine that was published at my New Hampshire boarding school. The Horae and the boarding school are both, at least by American standards, venerable.

The piece was a poem, based in part on a bet. I bet another guy - I'll call him Wisner - that I could get a piece into the Horae. My idea was that if I goosed up the language and staggered the lines and avoided rhyme, but kept it morally upright, they would publish. I showed him the piece. Wisner made the bet because he thought it was a crappy poem, but also because of my creative use of upper case at the beginning of each line, which he did not think would fool the Horae's Editorial Board. It's also possible he did not care if he lost.

I won the bet. Here's what came out in the next issue:

That huge "F" was the Horae's idea.

I was an instant celebrity in that small, fraught world. Although the Editorial Board may have missed the irony, the masters - as we called our teachers then - did not. My English master, a wonderful Brit who loved booze way too much - said, "The last guy who did this was on a train home that afternoon."

The Rector was not amused. An autere Episcopalian bishop, he called me in after consultations to which I was not privy. His offer, rather than to send me home, was to make me stay On Bounds (meaning you couldn't leave the premises) indefinitely, stay over two days into Spring vacation, and pay the republishing costs. I took the deal. It seemed to me, well, ironic that the most severe sanction was banishment, but the next one down was a kind of imprisonment on campus.

The poem was an ironic piece, if also adolescent and crude, and the local literati gave it a mixed review. The chair of the Editorial Board, no doubt miffed, said, "I can't believe you would do something so stupid." Another member of the Board was vague as to whether he had spotted the secret message and pronounced it the finest work ever printed in the Horae. In any event the edition was republished and the poem replaced with a drawing of a flower or a bucket or something. The originals were confiscated and, they say, burned. Except a few.

The poem derived not only from my bet with Wisner. About six months earlier, in the Fall of 1965, my parents had announced that they were separated. It was not really unexpected; my father had fallen rather conspicuously in love with someone else. Home in Ohio that Christmas, I saw him only for a little time, in a rented house. A sad holiday, and even I, the most hardened prep school toughie, came back to school hoping they would wake up and pull it together.

In February, hearing nothing, I called my sister, who was married and lived in Connecticut. I said, "Are my parents divorced?" She said yes. She thought it was terrible they hadn't told me.

I wrote out the poem the next week.

I'm sure I wasn't put on the next train home, and instead was roped to the school, because the Rector knew the history. He felt sorry for me, which I hated. But I did not hate him, and I loved my parents throughout. I was just blind-sided a little, and more careful thereafter.

OK Yeah the Last One Was April Fool's

Meant to be kind of dark and ironic, especially the reference to sunblock.

Amazing

Today's radiation was unbelievable. As soon as they turned it on, the raygun circled around my head, searchlights rose up, mellotronny music swelled up. A host - or at least a couple of dozen - of vestal virgins appeared before me. They escorted me up, up, up a celestial ladder and there before me, after all these years, was St. Peter. Who said, "What have done for the wretched of the earth? What have you done that had no benefit to you at all - was just the right thing to do?" I mumbled something about United Way. He pointed a bony finger toward the Down escalator. I descended, and at the bottom was Satan, I guess, although he looked exactly like Richard Nixon. Who said, "Hey, you didn't want to be up there anyway. All your friends are here. It will be like a beach in the Bahamas, only really, really, really hot. Wear sunblock."

Cocktail Hour

Three radiation days down, twenty-seven to go. In at 8:30 am, out in under an hour. The photo in the link from my last post is pretty close to me - but eventually I will ask my new techs to take one in my own Silence-of-the-Lambs-y mask.

As before, they really do screw your head down to the gurney. But the machinery is different - more like the PET scans - a big-ass white donut into and out of which you slide. Noisier than before, and a different noise. A shakey-grindey noise that circles around you - the raygun, blasting away. Does not sound like a gun, though - a lot more like a bartender with his shaker. A mixologist, as they say, orbiting around your head. My version of a Stinger, Mr. Morgan - I make it with gin...

Guest Author

Well, for another take on this process you can go here. It's about the coach of the Denver Nuggets. Good luck George.